Subject: This soldier is never at attention
Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I are both in the military and he’s still active duty and I’m retired. I’m raising our two sons and I do personal training for 3 clients to earn extra money. I’m in shape and I want my husband to stay in shape too. He works out but he doesn’t take care of his body internally. His diet has made him pre-diabetic and he’s on medication. The medication affects both of us because his soldier is never at attention anymore. It’s been close to three months and he doesn’t seem to care that I’ve got needs. If he doesn’t get his blood pressure and sugar intake together, it’s going to kill this marriage. I’ve always been the one to initiate sex and he loved that about me. It makes me think he’s tired of my body and he has no interest in pleasing me. I called his physician and he couldn’t tell me anything but he did say that my husband can take better care of himself and suggested I help out with that. I took all of the sugar out of the house and we eat clean now but that’s not helping. So, I decided to check his meds and the bottles are full. I asked him why he wasn’t taking the pills and he said he doesn’t like how they make him feel. Then he said that we’ve had plenty of great sex over the years and we will get back to it soon. I can’t believe he’s being so selfish and if the roles were reversed, he’d have a fit if I deprived him of sex. I get a lot of attention at the gym, the grocery store, the park and everywhere else I go. I’ve never considered cheating in the 8 years I’ve been married, but it’s all I think about now. I dream of sex, watch porn on my phone and take care of my own needs occasionally. Will I be selfish, like him, if I step out and get my sexual needs fulfilled?